In my last message, I explained why you might feel like a fraud sometimes. This can happen when your need for belonging makes you filter your message. And then you lose touch with its core along the way.
Have you ever felt like this? If so, you’ve probably spent a lot of time trying to overcome it.
People usually get aggressive and try to fight it as hard as they can.
But what if there was a better way of dealing with this problem? One where you didn’t have to struggle and work your butt off?
I’m going to share a story that taught me a huge lesson about belonging.
It’s my own…
It was my 42nd birthday and I didn’t have anything planned. I figured I didn’t need anything big, as it wasn’t one of those milestone birthdays.
I didn’t know myself as well as I thought. I got to feeling a bit panicky about my decision and invited a few people over for dinner. I wanted to spend some time with the people I cared about the most.
As the evening progressed, I started to feel something really strange. All my friends were very successful, so part of me had trouble believing they were the closest people in my life. They were my mission champions, and I was theirs.
While I was driving home, it hit me – for the first time in my life, I felt like I truly belonged. And I felt blessed to belong to that group of people.
Why did I have to wait 42 years for that feeling?
Here’s a surfing analogy:
When I was riding on the back of the wave, I couldn’t see anyone. I only started seeing people when I got to the edge. I realized that was because I had edge-riders around me, and I was one of them.
Here’s what I want you to understand. You should never hold back. Go all in and you’ll surround yourself with powerful people who will tend to your need for belonging.
P.S. Whenever you’re ready… Here are 4 ways I can help you grow your coaching & thought leadership business:
- Grab a free copy of the Soul-Guided Niche eBook
If you’ve ever wondered if you’re serving the right people or why people aren’t following you in bigger ways, this is a great start to finding your answers. – Click Here
- Join our Facebook Page, where you can watch our weekly live coaching program, The Courageous Messenger Podcast
This page is filled with resources for messengers and change agents who want to answer their calling and change the world. It includes a weekly live coaching program, on Wednesdays at 12 noon pacific, where Jeffrey helps you dial in your message and become a more courageous messenger. – Click Here
- Apply for a Message Mentoring Session
If you feel lost or stuck on your message… or like it’s just not working and you don’t know why… it might be time for a Message Mentoring session. One of my top coaches will take you through a discovery process to figure out what’s not working in your message and why. Then we’ll figure out how we can help you dial it in so it lands deeply and draws the right people in. – Click Here
- Work with me and my team privately
If you’d like to work with me directly to help you find the message only you can deliver – the work that sets you apart in the marketplace to elevate your brand, income and reach – just send me a message with the word “Private”… Tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and we’ll be in touch from there!