If you’ve been following my emails, you know that I talk a lot about the belief-based identities we create for ourselves. I believe we need to understand those identities to rise above our wounds.
After all, those same wounds gave us our false identities in the first place.
Whenever I work with clients, I always ask this question:
“Okay, and this happens to me because I’m what?”
The “what” can be anything – all the labels we’ve been giving ourselves since we were young. We might think we’re worthless, unlovable, stupid, and so on.
But one answer comes as a surprise to many people:
“I’m dangerous.”
After all, danger requires power. And the identities we give ourselves are far from powerful. We don’t feel welcome or worthy, and might even feel like a failure.
So what role does danger play here?
You see, wounds give you the power to see things other people can’t. And that isn’t all. They give you the power to see and hear things that others forbid you from seeing and hearing.
Imagine being a child. Children don’t put up filters like adults. As a child, you can go around pointing at things that adults can’t. Maybe the adults are turning a blind eye to the huge elephant in the room. You ask all kinds of questions about what you’re seeing and hearing.
Naturally, the adults around you are going to try to stop you. They might shame you for daring to ask questions. They may tell you that you don’t have the right.
Because that’s dangerous.
And that’s what most of us fear, even if we’re not aware of it. We don’t fear rejection, lack of love, or other things we recognize. Underneath it all, we’re afraid of being too dangerous.
When you learn how to transform that danger, you’ll learn how to share your words without fear.
P.S. Whenever you’re ready… Here are 4 ways I can help you grow your coaching & thought leadership business:
- Grab a free copy of the Soul-Guided Niche eBook
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This page is filled with resources for messengers and change agents who want to answer their calling and change the world. It includes a weekly live coaching program, on Wednesdays at 12 noon pacific, where Jeffrey helps you dial in your message and become a more courageous messenger. – Click Here
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If you feel lost or stuck on your message… or like it’s just not working and you don’t know why… it might be time for a Message Mentoring session. One of my top coaches will take you through a discovery process to figure out what’s not working in your message and why. Then we’ll figure out how we can help you dial it in so it lands deeply and draws the right people in. – Click Here
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If you’d like to work with me directly to help you find the message only you can deliver – the work that sets you apart in the marketplace to elevate your brand, income and reach – just send me a message with the word “Private”… Tell me a little about your business and what you’d like to work on together, and we’ll be in touch from there!